About two years ago, my mentor and I read a particular book for close to a year (little did I know how important this book would become in the course of my life!) Prior to reading this book- ‘What’s the difference; Manhood and Womanhood defined according to the bible’ by John Piper- I already had a general understanding of the concepts it would introduce. However, as I flipped the pages of the book I realized there was so much more!
By the time the year was coming to an end I was ready to passionately pursue biblical womanhood because I finally understood what God had planned and purposed in my life as a woman. It was and still is a great feeling. Most people that are closest to me are already on this quest to pursue biblical womanhood. However the more I interacted with other people- especially young ladies like myself- the more I saw the need for more women to be taught this. A light bulb moment for me was when I was listening to a song by S.O called feminine appeal: “Most women are taught all except this vital thing/How to be biblical, women see different/That feminist system is sifting I seen sisters who are/So driven by the world ways/And doing everything the world say/Laying where the world stay/I’m praying that them girls change/Transformed by the Spirit giving firm praise”. My hope is that more women would know the joy of pursuing who they are in Christ and why their creator made them perfectly how they are.
Without further a-due, I would like us to go to the genesis of it all, and answer two crucial questions : why biblical womanhood and where does this all come from? There is no other place to go to for these answers than the bible, God’s infallible and inerrant word. Genesis 1:27 simply states “so God created man in His own image. In the image of God, He created him, male and female he created them” (ESV). That is the first truth I want to share before anything else, our value as women is not determined by the beauty that we possess or the intelligence, or any other quality we have but rather in the fact that we were created by God and in His image. This makes us equal to men in worth, because we were both created by God and in His image.
As you read further in Genesis, you will discover that when God was creating woman from Adam, he was very specific in her description, here it goes; “It is not good that the man should be alone, I will make a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:18). This is where we first find the purpose for women, and that is to be a helper suitable for man as well as a companion, but keep in mind what we established earlier that our value as women in found in us being made in the image of Christ. This is where the lines get drawn on how different we are from men, every attribute that God gave us comes from the fact that we were created to be helpers to men.
From the verses we have read above we can also discover that God is the author of womanhood and the femininity that comes with it all. Because God created a woman, He is the only one that has the right to tell us how we ought to live and be as his creation, not the world and not our friends or society. The bible alone is the definition of what true womanhood looks like because God alone is the creator and author of our lives and our role as women.
As a result of this truth that God is our maker and He defines how we should live, when we choose to live outside of what the bible tells us, we are living in disobedience to God. True freedom for us is only found when we live in the confines of what God created us to be, John Piper used the following illustration to illustrate the meaning of this;
“The disposition of mature femininity is experienced as freeing. This is because it accords with the truth of God’s purpose in creation. It is the truth that frees (John 8:32). There are sensations of unbounded independence that are not true freedom because they deny truth and are destined for calamity. For example, two women may jump from an airplane and experience the thrilling freedom of free-falling. But there is a difference: one is encumbered by a parachute on her back and the other is free from this burden. Which person is most free? The one without the parachute feels free—even freer, since she does not feel the constraints of the parachute straps. But she is not truly free. She is in bondage to the force of gravity and to the deception that all is well because she feels unencumbered. This false sense of freedom is in fact bondage to calamity which is sure to happen after a ﬂeeting moment of pleasure. That is the way many women (and men) today think of freedom. They judge it on the basis of immediate sensations of unrestrained license or independence. But true freedom takes God’s reality and God’s purpose for creation into account and seeks to ﬁt smoothly into God’s good design.” (What’s the difference, John Piper, P.52)
In conclusion, what is biblical womanhood? Basically just following God’s principles of how we ought to live as women. Why biblical womanhood and why should you care about it? Biblical womanhood outlines what God wants our lives as women who were created by him to look like. You should care about this if you are a Christian who believes that the word of God is the final authority of how we ought to live, and as daughters of God who have been saved by His grace alone we ought to live in obedience to him through the Holy scriptures as empowered by the Holy Spirit. My prayer for you my dear friend is that you would follow God and passionately pursue who you are in him, and desire to know His good and perfect will for you as His creation.
My Hope is;
- That instead of being women who look in different places and people for worth and identity, that we would look to the God in whose image we were created to find our true worth
- That we will look in the bible to find our true purpose, and we will be firm in the word of God to not believe anything else other people offer.
- That we would be women who experience true freedom in God in doing what he has created us to do. And also rejecting any other counter offers the world presents in the name of Freedom.
- That we will be women to pursue this call to biblical femininity by the help of the Holy Spirit alone and not our own doing.
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