Welcome to week 2 of our 6 week series on biblical womanhood. I’m so happy you could join us again and if this is your first time be sure to check out blog 1 and 2. I hope that this past week has been of encouragement and challenging to you as it has been to me. Just a quick recap, we looked at how God created the world to be and how He created man and woman of the same intrinsic value but at the same time different in how they function. We also looked at the consequences of the fall and how it gets in the way of us as women and how God through his son Jesus has redeemed and restored us and by His Spirit we are able to pursue his will.
By His grace through faith our womanhood has been redeemed and restored, I know you might be wondering if we ever lost our womanhood. Simple answer is we didn’t, at the core of our hearts there is still that part of us that carries the distinct traits that God gave us as women, but the disobedience and sin in our hearts is what stops us from nurturing them. But for women for have been redeemed and restored through Jesus Christ, we ought to be different from our former selves in how we behave and what we pursue. I am going to list ten traits I believe we should nurture as women after God’s own heart. There are more traits than these ten but for now I would like us to discuss these ten;
1. Love and reverence for God. At the heart of biblical womanhood is a love and fear of the Lord, it is what drives every woman’s heart to do what God pleases. As women after God’s own heart we must learn to nurture our heart to desire the things of God and ultimately God himself. “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears The Lord is to be praised” Proverbs 31:30
2. Obedience. To be obedient to God means to do what we wants us to do, the bible defines someone after God’s own heart as one who does His will; “….I have found in David the son of Jesse a man after my own heart who will do all my will” Acts 13:22. The only way to do what God wants us to do is to read and study the bible, as well as do the word of God. “But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves” James 1:22
3. Disciple Makers. Every woman pursuing biblical womanhood ought to be disciples and disciple makers. Firstly because our Lord Jesus before He left this earth left us a command in Matthew 28:19-20; “Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the father the son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold I am with you till the end of the age”. In addition to this command, Paul in Titus 2:4 wrote that older women in the church ought to train the younger women. This means that as younger women we should be encouraged to submit to being trained by older women as well as commit to teaching younger women in the faith.
4. Quiet and gentle in heart. In 1 Timothy 2:11, Paul encourages women to learn in church quietly and submissively, I draw from the same root that women ought to nurture a quiet and gentle heart. As I mentioned in blog 2, because of the fall, behavior that ought to be normal to us is not anymore, and because of this it is important for us to nurture it so that it becomes a part of us. A quiet and gentle heart makes room for God to speak, it is a heart that is free from the distraction that comes in the form of pride. If our hearts are quiet, gentle and humble instead of prideful we are less likely to naggingly obey on the contrary we will obey God, our Parents or husbands with joy!
5. A submissive help-meet. All women by nature are created to be help meets and not leaders in the home, contrary to popular belief, this role does not begin once one is married. But rather begins at home, most of our mothers start to equip us for this role from a very young age (those who’ve grown up with male siblings can agree) and as women pursuing biblical womanhood we ought to take special interest in learning how to be more of a submissive help-meet while we are in our parents homes. Mr Scott Brown in his book “Feminine by Design” summarized it this way; “this is why your days in your father’s house need to be days of preparing for a life of service – Serving Christ by serving your father and your family. In doing so you are fulfilling your divinely inspired role and preparing yourself for the future”. In addition to this, he also mention in regard to submission that “every girl should realize that God has designed home life as a training ground to equip her to cultivate a trustful and submissive spirit. By cultivating a spirit of submission you are concentrating on spiritual strength“.
6. Home Maker. One of the greatest tools that I believe the devil uses presently is taking women away from the home. When women are taken away from the home, husbands are not cared for and offered the help and strength they need from their wives. The needs of their children are neglected, this creates a house that is not a home. The church of Christ flourishes when families flourish. The time to start laying foundation for your home is now, acquire all the skills you will need in order to make your home one that produces a husband that is praised at the gates, and children that do not depart from the ways of the Lord. “The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.” Proverbs 14:1
7. Modest and Pure. “Do not let your adorning be external-the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear- but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”- 1 Peter 3:4. Proverbs 31:30 “Charm is deceptive and beauty is vain. But a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised“. As women in pursuit of biblical womanhood, we ought to nurture our inner beauty more than outward beauty. Scripture reminds us that outward beauty is withering and passes away but Spiritual beauty is what is precious before the Lord.
8. Self-Controlled. One of the traits that make us distinctly women, is our emotionalism. Although not a bad thing, sometimes our emotions tend to be out of control. Often leading us into sin. As women after God’s own heart we have to get into the habit of self control. Bringing ones emotion under the submission of scripture for the glory of God.
9. Domestic Entrepreneurship. The proverbs 31 woman is a great example of a domestic entrepreneur, although she is a keeper at home she makes an economical contribution to her home by looking for opportunities for gain. As young women ought to start to think of opportunities for investment or gain in our parent’s home as well as our own homes one day of the Lord wills. You can do this my nurturing skills that will one day bring gain to your home, such as money management skills, cooking or baking etc.
10. Wise. The bible often reminds us of how important wisdom is, and we ought not to neglect nurturing a heart of wisdom. Wisdom only comes from knowing God’s will and seeking his counsel as well as seeking the counsel of older wise people around you. “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.” Proverbs 12:15
Some closing remarks: What hope does biblical womanhood pose for those who will never be married or those who God has not blessed with children or will not bless with children at all? God promises his son Jesus, the only gift and model we need. He was never married, never had kids and yet He lived His life solely for the glory of God. There is nothing better in this world than God himself, so whether or not we are blessed with all these other things, God should be enough for us!
“Whom have I in heaven but you?And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides you. My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” Psalm 73:25-26