Good day friends,
Welcome to week 5 of the 6 week series on biblical womanhood, we are now towards the end of this blog series but we still have a few things to talk about. Last week, we discussed singleness and relationships. As I mentioned relationships are supposed to be a time of two people figuring out in a God honouring manner if marriage is God’s will for them. It’s only natural that the next topic after this is marriage, we will be looking at what the bible says about it.
The first marriage in the history of humanity was between Adam and Eve in Genesis chapter 2 when God blessed Adam with the bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh. Marriage is something good that God created, it is a union between a man and a woman, not between man and man or woman to woman nor human being to any kind of object. This is a distortion of God’s view of marriage. As I have mentioned in the past marriage is a picture of the gospel and the relationship between Christ and His bride.
One of my favourite bible stories is of the prophet Hosea. God sent this Godly man Hosea to marry a well known prostitute by the name of Gomer, he did what God required of him and built a family with her. In all those times she always ended up leaving this loving man for her old ways, but in all those times The Lord always sent Hosea back to seek her and bring her back home. In some instances he actually had to buy his wife back home. Some may use this verse as an excuse to go and seek non believers and marry them, however. The bible clearly states that believers should only marry believers. What this passage is trying to portray is God’s relentless love for us. We are just like Gomer, returning and seeking after our adulterous and sinful ways, but God still faithfully pursues us. He even went as far as sending His only son Jesus Christ to die for us. In addition He gave us his Holy Spirit; Our helper in all things.
As we have seen in the Old testament, God often used marriage to illustrate His relationship with us, and He does not stop doing so in the new testament. Revelation 19:7-9 “Let us rejoice and exalt and give him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and his Bride has made herself ready; it was granted her to clothe herself with fine linen, bright and pure”— for the fine linen is the righteous deeds of the saints. And the angel said to me, “Write this: Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb.” And he said to me, “These are the true words of God.” Ephesians 5:23,24,32 “For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.”
From the above verses we can see clearly the picture that scripture paints, Christ is the lamb and the church is His bride. As such, marriage ought to portray Christ’s headship of the church through the leadership of the man, similarly in the wife’s submission is a picture of how the church submits to Christ.
In view of this let’s look at what The Lord requires of the man as the head and leader of the family. Ephesians 5:25-28 “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies.”
According to the word, husbands should love their wives sacrificially just as Christ did, in addition he ought to cleanse her and sanctify her by washing her with the word of God. Through this God honoring marriage, the woman is being made Holy and will be presented to Christ in splendor, without spot or wrinkle. The Lord charges the husband once again to love his wife as himself. In addition to the roles mentioned in this passage, the husband is the provider and protector of his family. A woman is placed under the headship and authority of her father before getting married, and after marriage this role is now fulfilled by the husband. The husband also has to lead in the teaching of the word in his family as the Lord commanded in Deuteronomy 6:6-7 “And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.” The same command is repeated in Deuteronomy 11 which stresses the importance of teaching children the word of God, although this is not solely the responsibility of the father but as the head of the family he leads the way.
We’ve discussed what the Lord expects of the husbands as the head of the home, although this is not exhaustive of what is required of the man.
Now we will proceed to what God expects of us as women in marriage. Ephesians 5:22 “wives submit to your own husbands as to the Lord”.1 Peter 3: 4-6; “Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.” The Lord commands married women to submit to the authority of their husbands, just as the church submits AS the bride of Christ, as well as to adorn themselves with imperishable beauty in the form of a quiet and gentle heart. In addition, they ought to follow in the steps of Holy women such as Sarah who submitted to her husband. For most women, submission is a hard concept to grasp and put into practice, but if our hearts are already in submission to Christ then it will be natural for us to submit to our husbands.
In addition to being submissive, we have to be home makers, Titus 2:3-5 “Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” The proverbs 31 woman also teaches us great lessons on managing the home and family and as well as having a domestic source of income.
The greatest trait that the proverbs 31 woman possesses however is the fear the Lord, the biblical wife is required to submit to her husband, be a keeper of the home, possess a quiet and gentle spirit and also teach younger women to be Godly. None of this is possible without being connected to the source of all good things, it is impossible to be a Godly woman without God.
In conclusion, all this was to show how men and women complement each other in marriage as they pursue their God given roles. The man is the leader and head of the family while the wife is the helper and submits to his leadership. As he is out working to provide for his household, she is at home, building and keeping the home as well as training her children. Marriage is a beautiful picture of how Christ the head of the church and his bride the church submits, if a man refuses to lead and the woman refuses to submit it distorts the picture of God’s kingdom. On the other hand God is glorified and Godly homes and families.
“And I will betroth you to me forever. I will betroth you to me in righteousness and in justice, in steadfast love and in mercy.” Hosea 2:19