Hello, and welcome to the second blog from our “6 weeks of biblical womanhood” series. Just a recap, on Monday I shared my motivation for this series and where this whole biblical womanhood thing started. We established that it was God himself who created us and gave us rules to abide by. In the same way you buy an electronic product, it comes with a manual of what you can do and what you cannot do with the product. Similarly when God created the world and placed Adam in the garden of Eden, he was given rules to abide by; ‘you surely may eat out of every tree of the garden but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die’ Genesis 2:17 (ESV). But the serpent deceived Eve into eating the fruit, and having tasted the goodness of this fruit, Eve went to her husband Adam and shared the fruit with him, although Adam knew that God told him not to eat from that tree. Adam chose to disobey God, and because of that disobedience, sin came into the world.


There is a lot that can be said about this passage, but for today I would like for us to focus on the implications the fall of man had on us as women and how it affects our pursuit of biblical womanhood. I’ve summarized the implication of the fall on us as women into 5, but they are not limited to these;

  1. Disobedience from God. After sin entered in the world, our hearts were engineered to disobey God and everything He stands for. We do not desire God as we ought to but rather desire to please our flesh. There is no goodness in us, and apart from the goodness that God himself gives us, we are not capable of doing any good outside of God. (Psalm 16:2)
  2. Dissatisfaction in God. Eve was deceived by the idea of having something more than God himself. And we are no different, our hearts often desire for something that would satisfy us apart from God himself. We find ourselves seeking satisfaction in our jobs or causes we subscribe to, or in the different relationships in our lives, or in acquiring all the money and material possessions. But none of that really satisfied, our hearts were created to be satisfied by only God himself.
  3. Rebellion from our God given roles. As a result of the fall, and our own sinfulness, our hearts are constantly fighting against the roles God gave us. We don’t desire to honor God, be pure, modest, quiet, gentle and submissive. In fact we desire the opposite of all those things, if you cannot see that in yourself, just look around the world, women now more than ever are in pursuit of authority, dominion and equality in function with men.
  4. The desire to Lord over men. When the fall happened, God cursed us in Genesis 3:16b; “And you will desire to control your husband but he will rule over you” (NLT). The desire women have to control their husbands creates a conflict between husbands and wives, as husbands also rebel from their God given role of leadership. Instead of leading their wives and families, they end up ruling over them. The plan of God of a complementary relationship between husband and wife has now been distorted because of the fall of man.
  5. Rebellion from authority. God designed a woman as a weaker vessel, it is quite obvious from how men and women were physically created that men are stronger. And because of this God designed a system to guard women and protect them, this comes in the form of authority. In God’s design, a woman is born in a family with a father present being the one protecting and providing for her (but due to the fall, this is not always the case), and when the lady gets married this responsibility is given over to her husband. This is a beautiful picture of how God the father provides and cares for us. A woman is meant to be submissive to this kind of authority in her life, and honor it as God requires her to. But again because of the sin in our hearts, we choose to be disobedient towards our father and leaders in our lives and don’t give them the honor that is due to them, likewise married women do not honor and submit to their husbands as they ought to.


I don’t know about you, but I can feel the weightiness of sin and my own personal disobedience from God. But PRAISE THE LORD that the story does not end there, before God gave the curse that was due to man, He already provided a solution; “I will put enmity against you and the woman, and between your offspring and her offspring. He shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise his heel” Genesis 3:15 (ESV). This is in a nutshell a picture of the Gospel, the bruising of the heel is the crucifixion of Christ and the bruising of the head is the victory that Jesus Christ has over sin and Satan! In the same way sin had an implication on our pursuit of womanhood, the Gospel also has implication on this. I will list five but they are not limited to these;

  1. By grace through faith in Christ we have been redeemed. God has paid the price of our sin through Jesus Christ, by faith in this we are redeemed and puts Jesus puts us back in right standing with God. Through the Holy Spirit, we are able to live in the obedience we couldn’t before.
  2. We have been given the grace to pursue our God given roles. Our sinful selves cannot fulfil all the roles God set out for us, we have miserably failed, but God has given us grace to pursue these roles as he set them out for us. Praise His name!
  3. We have been given the help we need to pursue satisfaction in God. The Holy Spirit gives us the ability to live out the life we would not be able to on our own, satisfaction in God is now something our hearts actually desires to pursue.
  4. He has granted us repentance. Because of his amazing grace upon us, we are able to repent from our sins, past and present. To see them and be able to turn from them.
  5. He has given us grace to portray the Gospel through our submission to authority. Through the submission to our father figures and leaders in our lives, the world can see God’s hand on our lives as well as his love as a father in how he provides and cares for us through our fathers and husbands.

In conclusion, the fall man created a huge problem for us, it brought sin in our world and hearts, and so we fail to pursue biblical womanhood because of the sin problem. But God in his just ways and mercy and grace he provided a solution for us in Christ Jesus, without Christ we cannot pursue biblical womanhood successfully. Praise God for his mercy on us and may He continue to give us the grace to walk this path.


“And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and I will give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my Spirit within you, and cause you to walk in my statutes and be careful to obey my rules.” Ezekiel 36:26.


  • That we will be women to recognize their hopelessness and inability to live out God’s will for our lives.
  • That we will by the grace of God, repent and believe in Jesus Christ and His power to save.
  • That by the power of the Holy Spirit we will pursue our God given roles.
  • That we will be women who are not satisfied with what the world promises to give us, but in God alone.
  • That we will be women to honor the authority and leadership of our fathers, uncles, pastors and the male leadership roles in our lives.
  • That we will be women who nurture the traits that God has blessed us with as women. And work on those we dont do well in (Quiet, gentle Spirit, pure etc).
  • If you are able to, check out this spoken word piece by Preston and Jackie-Hill Perry on the fall.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QwAw3FFuMAU


Grace and Peace,


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    Jamie Carter
    October 23, 2015 at 11:55 pm

    Do you have to be a womanly woman to achieve God’s approval? Is Biblical Womanhood the vehicle by which women travel the straight and narrow? Does it provide satisfaction? Is it a distraction from attaining christlikeness?

    The more I look into, the more empty promises I see for single men and women, childless couples, single parents, and other cultures who do things differently.

    I just can’t imagine Jesus dividing his followers into male and female and giving them separate instructions for following him and his teachings.

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      October 24, 2015 at 12:16 am

      Hello Jamie, thank you for your thoughts. I’m going to try answer all the questions you posed;

      No, being a womanly woman is not to achieve God’s approval. The fact that Jesus Christ has made us approved before God means we desire to be the women God wants us to be. Biblical womanhood is not a means to get God’s approval, but it is a way of fulfilling God’s will.
      Ultimate satisfaction is only found in God alone. But pursuing a life that God did not intend for us will bring dissatisfaction in God. I do not believe it is a distraction for pursuing Christlikeness, if anything we can not attain what biblical womanhood calls of us without Christ-likeness. Pursuing it is meant to sanctify us into Christlikeness.

      I understand your concerns for the empty promises. But I believe In God’s plan, through the church of Christ God has presented a solution for single men and women, childless couples, single parents and other cultures alike.. Biblical womanhood and manhood is not just for married folks or those who have kids. Other cultures like where I’m from (Malawi) are able to also find hope in Christ in understanding that the Gospel transcends every boundary and culture. And God’s standards don’t change based on culture.

      By creation, we are made into male and female, but we are equally co heirs with Christ.. We are meant to complement each other in our functions..
      If you are not satisfied with my answers ( it’s not exhaustive I know), I am open to continue this conversation via email at dianankhoma15@gmail.com

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        Jamie Carter
        October 24, 2015 at 1:05 am

        Thank you for responding. I admire your sincerity. I have seen how Biblical Manhood and Womanhood teachings have hurt many of sisters and brothers in Christ, constantly demanding them to measure themselves up to a standard that they cannot keep. It is a yoke that is not easy, and a burden that is not light. Most of these teachings date back to the last thirty-five years or so; before that they didn’t exist. They hadn’t been thought up or written down or anything like that. When I was little, I used to hear about the Holy Spirit, how he gave everyone gifts, how we were all supposed to use those gifts to help each other as a different part of the body. When I was grown, the only thing I heard about those gifts is that God wouldn’t give some of them to women who weren’t in certain parts of the body and couldn’t do certain things because of it. How God didn’t let Junia be an apostle or Phoebe a deacon, though that’s what the Bible called them. I was told that He didn’t let Priscilla help Aquila teach Apollos the story of Jesus more accurately, even though that’s what the Bible said had happened. How some of the other women were called co-workers who went with the apostles, helping to teach others about Christ, but since women cannot teach, then it must not have been so. So every Sunday I sit at church, thinking about the gift that God gave me that the church says that I can’t use. I can only conclude that somebody, somewhere is wrong.

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          October 24, 2015 at 6:21 am

          The gifts of the Holy Spirit have different functions and appropriate times. If they didn’t it would be chaotic.. Discussion for another day though 🙂

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    November 30, 2015 at 3:47 pm

    Hello Diana. I must say am quite impressed with your dedication to biblical womanhood. Lovely insights. But I do have a question on the sin problem. When the fall of man happened, God put a curse on the woman because of her sin. She was to be submissive to her husband. But in the New Testament, we read that Jesus Christ came to pay the price for our sins.. And through His blood, we have been forgiven. So doesn’t this mean that the curse on us has been uplifted? I am aware that women still experience pain during childbirth but why is it so if Christ took the burden for our sins? It’s just a thought really, if you can help me answer this, please share.

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      December 4, 2015 at 9:35 pm

      Hello there,
      I appreciate you reading and leaving a comment. I understand your question and i hope my answer will clear some of the concerns. Indeed Jesus Christ paid the price of our sins and took our punishment, and indeed we have been forgiven. And since we have been saved by faith, by the same faith we believe that the curse has been lifted from us. Pain during child birth (the curse) is a consequence of sin, as much as the sin has been forgiven the consequence still remains because God is just and faithful to his word. For example, if a Christian girl has sex before marriage, but repents of this afterward, but later contracts an STD, because she repented God has forgiven her but the STD will remain because it is the consequence of the sin. In addition to this, we see the result of sin everywhere; wars, murder etc, even though Jesus Christ took our sin, sin is still in the world, but it ought to remind us of the hope that we share in Christ. And so should childbirth, it should remind us of the hope we have in Christ, and the future that he has prepared for us where there is no more pain and suffering. I hope this answers your question, if not i am still open to discussion. Also check out this article; http://www.desiringgod.org/articles/how-are-women-saved-through-childbearing

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